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What I do for others who have Crohn’s disease, IBD or stolen colons.

My son’s first Ostomy Day

My son will grow up in a different world. He will grow up in a place where having an ostomy is a normal thing. I mean, 1 out of his 2 parents will have one!

waylon ostomy 2He’ll know what a stoma is. He’ll understand there’s a difference between a colostomy and an ileostomy. He will celebrate World Ostomy Day. He will probably at some point blurt out to some stranger that mommy poops in a bag. He will know that an ostomy is not disfiguring. It is not gross. It is not debilitating. And he will know that it saved his mom’s life.

I pray that in knowing these things, he will understand that sometimes people are different from us and that’s okay. I hope he will always remember that you don’t know what’s going on in someone’s life below the surface, and that he will have patience and show kindness to everyone.
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World Ostomy Day Twitter chat

I have loved seeing all of the ostomy love this week! It’s been great being a part of the sharing of information and spreading of awareness. And it’s not over yet!

This Friday, October 2, I have the awesome opportunity to co-host a Twitter chat with the CCFA as a precursor to World Ostomy Day. We are going to have a great panel of participants, including a colorectal surgeon, a dietician and representatives from the United Ostomy Association and the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation.

World Ostomy Day Twitter Chat
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On the other side of the curtain

I spent some time earlier this year on the other side of the hospital curtain. My best friend went in for emergency surgery. I was thankful that it was a day I was already planning on working from home, so I was able to drop everything to go see her when she woke up in recovery. It brought up a flood of emotions seeing her in that hospital wing, a little loopy from the anesthesia, but still looking beautiful.

hospital surgery recovery ostomies advocacy stephanie hughes bag colostomy ileostomy crohn's disease ulcerative colitis inflammatory bowel disease ibd ostomy blog stolen colon ileostomy colostomy urostomyThankfully, it was a successful surgery and she is doing great and was even able to leave the hospital just a few hours after the surgery. I spent those few hours there with her and her husband and the nurse who was monitoring everything.

This was one of the few times in my life that I was sitting in a waiting room, unsure of what was happening or going on with someone I really care about. When I went home later, I just crashed. I felt like I had been hit by a bus and there was nothing left. I tried to do some work the best I could, but mostly just curled up under a blanket on my couch and watched Gilmore Girls and eventually fell asleep.

It made me realize how much it takes out of you being the support for someone who is going through this sort of thing. I got a glimpse of what it must have been like for my husband and parents and sisters and friends every time I was admitted to the hospital and after each of my surgeries. It hurts me to think about all of those nights my husband stayed with me at the hospital, or when he had to return home while I was still there. I think about those 25 days I spent in the children’s hospital when I was 13 and can’t even imagine what that must’ve been like for my parents. And while It makes me sad to think of all they went through, it also makes me so thankful. I am thankful that I have such wonderful, loving people in my life that are willing to endure that and to be there for me, no matter how hard it is and no matter how much it takes out of them.

I realized at the beginning of the year that 2014 was the first year I hadn’t had surgery in three years and the first year I had not been admitted to the hospital in over five years. I had a period there where about every other month I was spending at least a night in the hospital, if not more. At that time, I don’t know that I could’ve imagined a period in life where I wouldn’t have to worry about when the next hospitalization might come.

Of course just a couple of months ago I had to deal with that again as I checked myself into the hospital 4 times in 4 weeks due to an intestinal blockage that was complicated by my pregnancy. By the third time I told my husband that I needed to go back to the hospital I could see how difficult it was for him. At times, I think it was harder on him than it was on me.

But during those times, both recently and in years past, through overnight stays and surgeries, I always had an army around me, helping to hold me up and get me through it. And now, I do know that I will never take for granted those people who have put their lives on hold and spent long hours waiting for news from the doctor on behalf of me or sleeping in the most uncomfortable chairs known to man.

Caring for someone with a chronic illness is not an easy thing. Those people have been through a lot. They live in a land of unknowns. For those of us who are dealing with an illness, we at least have a better understanding of what’s going on and we know our bodies well. But for those on the other side of the curtain, there’s little comfort they can find as they wish there was something more they could do, something to make the other person feel better. But they can simply sit and wait. Those of us with a diagnosis are not the only ones living with that disease. Our loved ones are impacted just as much sometimes, just differently. And these people are stronger than we sometimes give them credit for. I, for one, do not know where I would be without them. They give me strength to keep fighting and something worth fighting for.

This is IBD

I am spending this World IBD Day in the hospital. This was definitely not my plan for this day. But I suppose it’s kind of appropriate since those living with Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis never get a break and they can be fine one day and hooked up to a bunch of IVs at the hospital the next. And that’s pretty much what happened to me.

stephanie hughes hospital surgery colectomy stolen colon ostomy blog recovery ostomies advocacy stephanie hughes bag colostomy ileostomy crohn's disease ulcerative colitis inflammatory bowel disease ibd ostomy blog stolen colon ileostomy colostomy urostomy blockage obstructionLet me say first of all, though, that I am not in the hospital for a Crohn’s flare. But I am in the hospital as a result of Crohn’s disease and the surgeries I’ve had because of it. I’ve been dealing with some bowel obstruction issues since Sunday and they got even worse last night. When I woke up this morning, I still was having very little output, so out of an abundance of caution, especially considering my pregnancy, I decided to go to the ER. It’s now 11 hours later and I’m still not having a lot of output, or at least not anything substantial.
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